Therapy is such a confidential situation, so not everyone gets to hear about the great work that is done behind closed doors. So that’s why we are putting together a series of short interviews with our therapists to feature the amazing work they do and a little about the people behind the job titles.This month […]
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How to Validate when you Don’t Agree
It can be really hard to validate another person when you do not agree with their point of view, or the way they’re behaving. Yet bluntly disagreeing, arguing, or ignoring can often create more opposition rather than bring them around to your way of thinking. An alternative way is to validate first, disagree second. Lets […]
Doing Nothing
I wrote the piece below a few weeks before the initial lockdown period in March 2020. In some ways the timing couldn’t have been worse; as I’m advocating spending an hour in isolation just as the whole world was to spend much of the next 24 months in varying stages of solitary confinement. I have […]
Event: Rutland House Counselling & Psychotherapy are proud to support mental health charity Lamp’s 5K challenge: Trip to The Moon
We are very proud to announce we are Event Partners for Lamp’s 5k challenge again this year! We together successfully travelled around the world last year, this time it’s a trip to the moon. During Mental Health Awareness week (9th – 15th May 2022) LAMP (Leicestershire Action for Mental Health Project) will be hoping of […]
Understanding Feelings, Defences, Behaviours, and the Self; from a psychodynamic perspective
I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them. Quote from The Picture of Dorian Grey, by Oscar Wilde, 1890. In the quote above, Dorian Grey, the protagonist in Oscar Wilde’s novel, attempts to use, enjoy and gain some mastery over […]
The DBT Skills – Distress Tolerance: What’s That All About?
It is a universal truth that life can be incredibly challenging. It can, and often does, throw us into painful and upsetting situations that we did not ask for, and are sometimes ill-equipped to deal with. That being the case, understandably, we don’t always respond in ways that serve us best in the long term. […]
